The “romantic-sexual/platonic” love dichotomy leaves no room for the real emotional nuances people experience in their attachments, and I think that it often causes us to live with simplified relationships not because we want to or because we have simple desires and feelings but because we have no experience, cultural context, or language to accommodate a complex social life or set of relationships. This is why language is so important. This is why words and labels matter. How can you have the kind of relationships you want with anyone, if you don’t even have the words to accurately express how you feel? Hell, half the time, people don’t even understand their own feelings and relationship desires because what they feel is not simple at all, but the only relationship framework they know makes everything seem simple and clear cut: romance and sex go together, friendship is separate from both of those things, couplehood/primary partnership is exclusive to romance and sex, etc.
But if we are to accept the possibilities and realities of asexual romance, primary nonsexual/nonromantic love, nonromantic sex and sexual friendship, romantic (nonsexual) friendship, queerplatonic nonsexual relationships and sexual relationships, etc…. we have to drop this way of thinking and speaking about relationships and love in a romantic-sexual/platonic dichotomous way. None of those “complex” relationships fit into that model”
The Killers - Just Another Girl
The song is fine, the video is wonderful.
I am ill and feeling weak and tired and Holly and I just watched the John Lewis Christmas advert and Morgan bought me a gingerbread latte because I’m sick and he’s the sweetest so I’m basically on the edge at the moment and all I want is for my mother and my doggie to be here to make me better because my dissertation is due in two weeks and I don’t have time for anything good (why the fuck are you on Tumblr Rosa do some fucking work) and the point is that this gif is like, tipping me. Right over the edge. Into the abyss.
PISS OFF I HAVE THE T-SHIRT VERSION OF THIS PISS OFF PISS OFF WE ARE MEANT TO BE TOGETHER JESUS CHRIST
(breaking general Tumblr silence for this IMPORTANT NEWSFLASH)
“October extinguished itself in a rush of howling winds and driving rain and November arrived, cold as frozen iron, with hard frosts every morning and icy drafts that bit at exposed hands and faces.”
- J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix (via ofpoetry)
Yessssssssss (top one has replaced my old bear desktop wallpaper) yes yes yes
“[The humanities] are thus, inescapably, political. Why? Because they complicate our vision, pull our most cherished notions out by the roots, flay our pieties. Because they grow uncertainty. Because they expand the reach of our understanding (and therefore our compassion), even as they force us to draw and redraw the borders of tolerance. Because out of all this work of self-building might emerge an individual capable of humility in the face of complexity; an individual formed through questioning and therefore unlikely to cede that right; an individual resistant to coercion, to manipulation and demagoguery in all their forms. The humanities, in short, are a superb delivery mechanism for what we might call democratic values. There is no better that I am aware of.”
- Mark Slouka - Dehumanized: When Math and Science Rule the School (via ameliaelizabeth)
From blossoms comes
From laden boughs, from hands,
O, to take what we love inside,
There are days we live
- From Blossoms, Li-Young Lee (via colporteur)